Traveling Their Way
When it comes to travel, we’re at the point in our lives when many of us prefer a four-star hotel. But what happens when a mother decides to join her three twentysomething children and traipse around Ireland doing it their way? She was rewarded with adventure and pushing her limits. Peg Smith writes in “Looking for Adventure in Ireland”:
Staying in hostels and keeping our plans flexible afforded us an intimate experience of Irish life. And, by stepping outside of my own comfort zone, I was able to experience something of the world through the eyes of my children.
What to do when you sense your adult children are facing money woes but are reluctant to share their problems. In “All in the Family—Making Money Talk Easier” psychologist Nancy Molitor suggests beginning with a general conversation and then moving on from there:
“Very few things in life are solved with one big talk. The first conversation should be a basic probe. It might be when you’re on vacation with them, or out for an evening, and you happen to say, ‘Boy, have you been paying attention to stock market? Just wondering, how are you guys doing with that?’”
Boomerang Kids Move in with Grandma
In some situations this could be a win-win: Grandma shouldn’t be living alone, and the boomerang kid needs to get out of your house. Of course all the stars need to be perfectly aligned for this to work. If grandma is in Kansas City and you’re in New York City it doesn’t make sense. But apparently the situation is working for some. In “What A Big House You Have Grandma,” blogger Paula Span looked at the trend and writes:
I imagine that for most grandparents and grandchildren, this is a more temporary arrangement: for the young, a way station on the road to independence; for the old, an opportunity to be both supportive and supported before real frailty sets in.
But maybe not. I asked Laura Marsh, who is about a year away from her degree, how long she planned to live with her grandmother. “Forever,” she said, only half kidding. “I’m never moving out.”