Watch adult child and parent separation in action
When my daughter is home from college we often watch TV together. Actually she wields the remote and I go along for the ride. Last week she was channel surfing and stopped at “Raising Sextuplets,” a WE tv reality show about an Arizona couple with six two-year-olds.
What was fascinating about the show (other than the chaos) was that it vividly demonstrates the adult child-parent separation issues that Dr. Pickhardt speaks about in Adult Children Need Roots and Wings.
The parents of the sextuplets, Bryan and Jenny Masche, want to move from their Arizona home to Florida for a new job and better lifestyle. Unfortunately they are leaving behind both their own parents (and support system). Both sets of parents are quite vocal about their disapproval of the move. Watch this episode and see which side you agree with…and sound like!
Are You a Closet Watcher of Tween TV Shows?
When you’re flipping around the channels do you occasionally stop—and watch—tween shows like “Hannah Montana” or “iCarly”? Does your adult child do the same?
Not to worry, you’re not alone according to “Some parents not ashamed to admit they like tween TV shows.” An “iCarly” special earlier this year drew audience of 12.4 million, 2.7 million of whom were adults ages 18-49.
TV executives are apparently not surprised at the adult audience:
“But it goes beyond simply putting strong adult characters in the shows,” says Adam Bonnett, senior vice president of original programming for the Disney Channel. “We want parents to see themselves in those characters — or even to see what they were like as a teen and appreciate what the younger characters are going through.”
Getting Along With Mom and Dad, Again
Dr. Susan Newman, author of “Under One Roof” has some smart advice for boomerang kids. In her Psychology Today blog, she listed ten tips for helping parent and adult child co-exist. Pass them along to your in-residence adult child:
- Make yourself useful, as in be helpful wherever and whenever you can. Surprise parents by preparing dinner, for example.
- Be considerate: Call if you are going to be late for dinner, later than anticipated, or to let them know you will not be home at all. Once a parent, always a parent: They will worry about you.
- If you have an intrusive parent, keep your personal life separate by limiting the amount of information you share.
Going to College with Grandma
Michigan State University runs the nation’s largest grandparent university, enrolling 940 participants this year. MSU is among 13 other universities with similar programs where grandparents and grandchildren come to take classes and live on campus.
Courses at MSU, all taught by college faculty, include “No Yolk” Construction Challenge, So You Want to Play A Bell?, LEGO Robotics Challenge and Programming in Scratch
As Connie Lawson, an MSU administrator said, in “Spanning Generations”:
“The way careers and families have organized themselves these days, grandparents aren’t always around the block. Grandparents University focuses on three days of bonding; they learn what excites their grandki
So simple your grandmother could do it (you too)
Want to video chat but not sure how to get started? Those folks at Google are always coming up with something new. This time it’s a video on how to set up a video chat with gmail.