ET: Text Home!
The secret to staying in contact with your adult children is learning to text. They won’t answer the phone but they will text you. When a 25-year-old is texting in a bar no one know it’s to his mom about Sunday dinner not a hot date.
Huffing ton Post writer Elizabeth Cunningham discovered this after not hearing from her adult children for a few weeks: In Sacred Text(ing): Staying in Touch With Adult Children, she writes
Nature abhors a vacuum, and a mother can fill a silence with all kinds of worries and projections. It is even worse when I break down and leave a voice mail or send an email that goes unanswered.
She learned to text and found her kids actually text back. So if you haven’t learned how to text maybe her reaction will inspire you:
Really, it’s not about me. That’s what texting is teaching me. They’re fine. They know I’m there. I’m the background of their lives, not the focus, the harbor to their open sea, the boulder or tree that serves as a point of reference. That is as it should be. Also, I am making a rule (for myself only) out of respect for the sacred text: Not to do it more than once a week (or maybe twice!)
More Tips For Boomerang Kids
Making it Work When Boomerang Kids Come Back to the Nest includes most of the standard advice of how to get along when an adult child moves back home. The piece nicely summarized:
The big idea is this: this living arrangement should be viewed as a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity for a boomerang adult to improve their financial situation and get a fresh start.