We asked that question last week and got an array of answers. The most compelling was from Lauri Leadley, an Arizona mom and cancer survivor. Thank you all and enjoy the day wherever your children may be!
I have 3 adult children who at times have lived in 3 different counties with up to 8500 miles between us.
My favorite gift they could ever give me on Mother’s Day is time. This might be a FaceTime or Skype call but even a text message has had to replace a card or a gift.
I think the greatest Mother’s Day gift of all is just plain being a mother. Having cancer, I never thought I’d see my now 26-year-old daughter go to kindergarten but I now have received the gift of being a grandmother.
My oldest son who was in the Navy overseas once wrote my youngest son, “You go to church and you sit by mom and you hold her hand. I would give anything to do that now.” I’ve spent many Mother’s Day without gifts and without my children present but in my heart I hold all my precious memories as gifts.
A book club friend:
We celebrate all the women in our family, whether moms or not, and everyone brings an inexpensive gift–pot of flowers, a nice smelling soap, a piece of costume jewelry, or a pair of funky socks or garden gloves.
Also on Mothers Day, about an hour before I expect people to arrive at my house, my husband will ask me to draw the map to the Estee Lauder counter at Lord and Taylor. He always comes back with it all wrapped up in a pretty basket. It is a win win for me! He just spent the $350 that I was going to spend anyway stocking up on my favorite White Linen products!
A sister who provides services for mental disabilities:
The best thing way to honor our mothers is to spend time with each other. My adult children and my husband and I are walking in the National Association of Mental Illness Day on Saturday from South Street Seaport over the Brooklyn Bridge and back. So that will be my gift: to walk with my family honoring the people we serve to help build a better life for them.
From April Masini at www.AskApril.com
If your mother has passed away, Mother’s Day can be particularly harrowing. Instead of staying in the house and feeling sad, use the day to visit her grave, leave flowers or a poem, and have others who are dear to you, and were to her, meet you for a picnic graveside, or elsewhere, after. She’s still your mother, wherever she is or isn’t.
I know what to do as a daughter, but not sure what I want as a mother. When my kids don’t pay attention, I am upset. I guess I want something. But not sure what. Surprise me….
Flowers, a hug, and a kiss!
And from a friend, and thank you for your honesty:
I would just like Mother’s Day to be MY Mother’s Day…not my mother’s day. My 90-year-old mother and Queen Elizabeth have a lot in common. Neither is ceding the throne. My mother’s children (all in their 60s) and grandchildren are all expected to drop all other commitments to wine, dine and gift her on Mother’s Day. To hell with the moms; it’s all about her! I’d like dinner at a nice restaurant with just my husband and son.