The term “boomerang kids” has been around for at least a decade, and has even been the topic of study by sociologists. The number of boomerang kids has increased over the last year because of record unemployment both for new grads and for the twenty- and thirtysomethings who have been laid off. More than one third of workers under age 34 are living with their parents, according to a 2009 survey by Peter D. Hart Research Associates.
The idea of having the “kids” around might appeal to some parents, while others start plotting immediately how to get them to move out again.
Set ground rules:
- most important set a move-out deadline before they move in
- decide what expenses parents will cover (food, laundry) and what expenses parents won’t cover (take-out food, beer, iPhone, gas)
- if the child works consider asking for rent; if the child is jobless, ask for errands and chores in lieu of rent
Insist on plans for a job search:
- establish a weekly minimum number for emails, phone calls, resumes etc
- consider how much, or how little, parents will help with contacts, coaching
Practice tough love:
- establish a time limit on searching for the ideal job
- make life a little less cushy with stricter house rules
If these ideas don’t work, watch the movie “Failure to Launch” about parents who hire a woman to seduce their son and get him to move out. Parents have been driven to desperation!